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Monday, January 19, 2009

ANGER MANAGEMENT

Anger management is a funny phrase to me. I don't know why it just is. The phrase I would choose is, "anger elimination." Don't get me wrong, I believe that it is okay to get angry but it is not okay to go off on someone.

Therefore, if we use, "anger elimination," instead of anger management, we are removing the anger that we show externally rather than managing it.

What I am saying is, it is okay to get angry but, when we recognize it internally, in our thoughts, that is the best place to eliminate it. If that sounds silly to you, let me know, give me a comment.

The thing about it is, that is what I do, well, sometimes. I don't know why but total strangers, no matter what they do, don't get me angry. People I know, from work or social places, don't get me angry. But the one and only people that can get me angry are my loved ones.

Maybe, I expect more from them.

Writing this blog is an opportunity for me to look at my anger and it's elimination. Join me in eliminating our anger together.

Here are some suggestions:

1. Take responsibility for your thoughts about anger, recognizing that it is not okay to go off on anyone.

2. Change your mind by knowing and having faith that you can eliminate your anger.

3. Learn deep relaxation and/or meditation skills and techniques, so that you may decrease your anger at anytime and anywhere.

4. Seek professional help if you are violent or you are not getting better at anger elimination.

5. Speak to your Private Medical Physician to make sure everything is okay medically.

6. Know that you are the only thinker of your thoughts therefore, you can find total control of your thoughts which in turn creates your feelings.

7. Create your own thoughts (grateful, positive, and good ones), so that you create your feelings, and have fun and be playful. If you do not know how, then learn.

YOU GOT THE POWER!

If you have any questions or comments, please use the comment function on the blog, and I will comment in return:)

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Don't forget to have fun and be playful, it is in your nature.

Elizabeth


4 comments:

Michelle Brooks said...

Thank you for this post Elizabeth. I find it interesting that people will "go off" on others as you put it at the drop of a hat it seems these days. I feel that is a direct result of thoughts of separateness, but also stress is a major contributing factor.

I must say I am much less patient with my family after enduring lots of stress in the workplace. Thank you for the fantastic tips!

Michelle

elizabeth said...

Hi Michelle,

Thanks for visiting my blog.

Elizabeth

Rebecca said...

Hmmm I don't know. I tend to hold anger in. I don't go off on people... I process things internally and think I'm over it but sometimes I don't think I really eliminate all of it. Thus the next time it surfaces more quickly, but I surpress it again. I don't think this is healthy... supression rather than elimination I guess. This is a very interesting thing to think about.. thanks!

Elizabeth said...

Rebecca,

What great insight you have. When we become aware it is the first step towards our success. Thanks for visiting my blog.

To your success,

Elizabeth